Lessons on Blogging #5: Be FEARLESS

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Being a blogger comes with a great deal of perks. From personal invitations to events and travel, taking photos in all the cool locations… But have you ever wondered how to do it; how do you get to be there?

Answer: You become fearless.

When I first started blogging I was an outgoing and bubbly college girl; a model turned fashion student who had sartorial stars in her eyes and an already vast experience in front of a camera lens. I asked photographers I knew if they’d shoot my outfits. If I wanted to work with someone; a company or brand or photographer or other blogger I simply out right asked them. Sometimes I’d be met with a little let down, but most of the time people were excited to collaborate. Especially since this was in the beginning days of blogging when not literally everyone and their mom had a blog. They knew I had reputable photography sources and that I knew how to appropriately pose. I was different; aesthetically and stylistically that made me unique. I liked to take charge in planning everything, which also probably went down to my slight OCD nature. I shot in Central Park, I shot in the streets of NYC and on the Brooklyn Bridge. I was loving my life!

As I grew older I became slightly more introverted. I was no longer in school with fellow fashion inclined students who understood the growing world of blogging. I felt sheepish to ask my coworkers for a quick photo sesh, and was apprehensive/fearful of rejection when reaching out to brands and event hosts, especially in a new city where few knew my name. I had moved around, losing my close-knit group of  blogging friends and was thrown into a whole new clique of people. It was terrifying. I grew reclusive. If I was finally invited to an event I’d either freak out and decide not to go or I’d get there alone and proceed to drink until I felt like I could talk to these strange girls who all knew each other. My boyfriend, who I convinced for a while to be my photographer, was sheepish to shoot in public settings, which in turn made me afraid to be under the scrutinous, curious eye of strangers. My blog fumbled as I struggled to regain composure amidst so much new and unfamiliar territory, while also staying true to myself, which is brave-ness in itself.

After reading about how one of the bloggers I’ve been following for years gets her shots it put a whole new spin into my plans. Andy Torres of Style Scrapbook always seems to be alone; she lives alone, travels alone, listens to music alone, explores new cities alone. She doesn’t have a full team a la Chiara Ferragni to follow her around and ensure the omni-present perfection of her life.

So how does Andy get her perfect outfit snaps while traveling? As she recently shared on her Snapchat and Instagram-She fearlessly asks strangers on the street.

My mind was slightly blown when I learned that, but it made sense. If you’re a blogger without a personal team you need to be able to ask for help, even from strangers or other bloggers. I also started paying attention to what some of my favorite bloggers’ photos looked like. It’s no secret that “action” street style shots are a major trend right now; gone are the days of standing blankly in front of a wall and posing. Hello to the days of friendly collaborations with both peers and strangers. Now is the time to email those brands you love and say ‘Hi’. Now is the time to tell that other blogger that you love her style and want to meet up sometime.

Andy gave me the jolt of courage to start being fearless again. I asked strangers on the street, or random coworkers in my office, for a quick photo of my #OOTD. I’d give them subtle direction and, if they offered a compliment on my style, mentioned that I was a blogger and gave them a card. I started doing more shoots in public settings; crossing busy streets amidst neighborly stares and managing to be okay with it. The attention means more people are seeing my style, and if they like what I’m styling it’s an excuse to hand off a card and hopefully welcome another reader and follower to the pack.

Halloween as Carrie Bradshaw #satc #manolos

The Lesson: Being a good blogger doesn’t always require a team of professionals to take your photos and help you out, sometimes it just takes being fearless among strangers, and with yourself.

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30 responses to “Lessons on Blogging #5: Be FEARLESS

  1. great tips! thanks for sharing!


  2. when we started blogging becoming fearless and being comfortable with letting people in on who we were and our life was the hardest thing but once we got passed that we began truly loving the blogging experience and the connections and conversations we have had with readers and fellow bloggers. Great blog post 🙂


  3. Great post! Love your beautiful dress!
    Love from http://www.trangscorner.com {a lifestyle, fashion, beauty, and food blog}

  4. This was such a great read! It’s so important to be confident as a blogger, that’s how you stand out and make your mark. Thanks so much for sharing part of your story with us 🙂
    xo Kiki

  5. Loved reading this! I agree you have to have guts to be a good blogger. Sometimes that means stepping out of your comfort zone and not giving a rat’s ass about what other people think.
    Great post dear!

  6. I really like what you write and how you write
    Keep going, dear
    Many kisses

  7. she is so fearless! I never thought of asking strangers! 😀
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

  8. I love that. It’s so simple in concept, but it goes a long way! =)

  9. Lovely post, and so true!

    Pink Wings

  10. I LOVE this!!! Great advice. I definitely needed to read this. And I would have never thought to ask a stranger; to take my pics; very fearless!


  11. Wow, I never thought about asking a stranger on the street to take a blog pic. We should be fearless!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  12. Fabulous post, I didn’t know Andy asked strangers, that’s so her cause she’s so awesome.


  13. Lovely and true post, i love yout shirt!

  14. This was a great post truly inspiring 🙂



  15. Andy Torres really do that?! WOW!!! I didn’t knew that and yet she’s one of the top bloggers out there. And BTW, I like your OOTD shot, very lovely. It seems like asking strangers is effective. I never did that before but I experienced many times strangers asked me to take their photos. Not that I’m often out carrying my camera, although when I carry a camera there’s always at least one person who ask me for a favor, but maybe because I often hangout on those “insta-worthy” places 😀


  16. So so pretty and great tips !! 🙂 People help people, love it !


  17. Great advice! I totally adore those looks!


  18. love the advice on being fearless! such a sweet post!

  19. This is such a fabulous post lived it.
    My blog: RumelaTheShopaholic

  20. this was really great to read, i don’t really have anyone helping me with my blog either but i don’t think i’m at the point where i could ask people on the street yet haha. good to know it can be done though!


  21. Love this post, and learning more about you. I also have asked strangers t take photos, and some of them have come out well. Hubby tkae some shots and the rest is now done professional. At my age, I can use every advantage! But blogging is so fun.
    XX, Elle

  22. I remember asking some strangers for my photos as well.
    You are right be fearless and if you love what your doing, you can find some ways to make it work.

    The Bandwagon Chic | Instagram | Bloglovin | Snapchat: bandwagonchic

  23. Love this post, definitely to be a blogger you need to forget about being shy and just go for it. Thanks for your words!
    The Color Palette

  24. Such a positive post! You go girl! 🙂

    Pop over to my blog!


  25. Totally with you here. I started off as a model and blogger a decade ago, but let the blog go by the wayside. Modeling gigs slowly dropped off and I fell off my agent’s radar. Re-starting the blog re-ignited my passion for all the creativity in the industry. I actually have full on photoshoots outside by myself. I prop the camera on anything that will hold it, whether it’s a bench or a curb, and proceed to self time it and run back and forth to check for the perfect shot. Kudos to you!
    Style Tomes
    Style Tomes on Instagram

  26. Being fearless is definitely necessary! I haven’t ever asked strangers to take my pictures but I take them by myself with a tripod and then people look at my like I’m crazy. lol.


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